What Oprah had to say about men?

:: If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

:: Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

:: Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

:: If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

:: Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

:: Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. -----> thank God, everything is way better now (^^)

:: The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you
any differently? ------> yeay, he doesnt have any kids!

:: Always have your own set of friends separate from his. ----> definitely, so that i can ngumpat him behind his back ;)

:: Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. ----> nanti kene marah balik..

:: Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later. -----> but i love to talk about everything!

:: You cannot change a man's behaviour.* Change comes from within. -----> ok.... but dont change me either!

:: Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.

:: Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

:: Never let a man define who you are.

:: Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. ---> i dont steal him. he steal me ;)

:: A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

:: You should not be the one doing all the bending. compromise is two way street.----> oh, i hope u're reading tis. hehehe

:: You need time to heal between relationships.there is nothing cute about baggage. deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

:: You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. look for someone complimentary not supplementary.

:: Dating is fun even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

:: Make him miss you sometimes when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. ----> really meh..??

:: Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. -----> huh??


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